Here’s to debunking the myths that seem to surround the ever sought after yet rarely discussed, orgasm. When it comes to having sex we have got to learn to be more open and honest about what’s actually going on, otherwise we’re never going to be able to make it to all of the pleasure that can come with it. Regardless of what you like or who you like to do it with, there are a few things that simply aren’t true when it comes to…well coming, that you should really know. Here are three common myths about orgasms:
#1. Just because you’re having sex, doesn’t mean you’re guaranteed an orgasm every time.
Truth be told, only about one third of women reach orgasm regularly through intercourse (seems unfair, I know). Sometimes you’re just too tired or stressed to get to that point, and that’s okay. It’s actually extremely normal. This being said, it’s important to remember that while you might not get there every time, that doesn’t mean you should rarely get to that point. As nice as it is to make your partner feel good, don’t forget about your own needs as well.
#2. Having an orgasm at the exact same time as your partner isn’t going to happen (often)…
While this is a lovely sentiment and a dramatically romantic idea, the truth is it’s not a very true-to-life goal. If it happens on its own, then congratulations on being in the top minuscule percentage of those able to perfectly choreograph sexy time. On the other hand, if you’re part of the majority of human beings who simply can’t get the hang of timing, then know that’s totally normal and simply means you’ll need to get a little more creative.
#3. An orgasm isn’t always and earth shattering event.
What?! You’re kidding??? You mean, it’s not like all of the romance novels? That’s right, forget everything your favorite pornos have taught you and let me learn you a thing right here. The truth is, more often than not an orgasm can be a feeling that literally has you saying, “mmm that felt good.” And believe it or not, that’s way more common than screaming at the top of your lungs (they’re not impossible though so if you haven’t screamed in ecstasy yet, I promise your time is coming my friend).